Equality, Inclusion, and Reevaluation…Where Do You Stand?

For generations women have been fighting for equality in the workplace. It stemmed from a time when women were working at home, raising children, keeping a clean house, being the chef in their own kitchen, managing schedules of their family, and some were also the secretary of their husbands. Often women had no money of their own, unlike the men who were making the money outside the home.

The right to have some money of their own for the work they did was not uncalled for, however the feminist movement took it in another direction. Women began to start in the workforce, aiming to someday be seen as equal in the same positions of “power”. It has happened, women got their way and there are many who have not only made it to the top of the food chain (so to speak) but also exceeded many men in the same fields.

So, are women happy now? Many men are not and so the balance remains off. Some men are now fighting back and asking for women to be more feminine and appealing to them (their wording not mine), but rightfully so from their perspectives. That just upsets some women more. But think of this: These men are being told by most modern women that they want to be “wanted”, “needed”, and treated like a “lady” in the same breath that they are saying “I am your equal in every way”.  It seems to confuse some people (in both genders). How can a woman be equal in every way and still ask to be treated as a more delicate vessel? It is not as complicated as people make it.

Today the lines are becoming blurred by the notion that we need to be so inclusive that we cannot decide what gender we are anymore. It is simple when we think of it from another perspective. When it is learned that a hammer is a strong instrument used to get certain jobs done, it is not looked at or handled like it will break under a small amount of pressure. A hammer is used to fix and/or create incredible things and its value is appreciated. When a teacup is taken out from a cabinet, it is not slammed on the counter, or it will break because it is indeed more delicate, and yet it can withstand the boiling temperature of tea (and yes, some are painted to be more attractive). Before you get mad at my examples keep reading.

Men are (typically) born with more testosterone…they are more masculine BY NATURE. Women are (typically) born with more estrogen…. they are more emotional BY NATURE. These are facts. Back to the example: Hammers are important things that were created to help us get things done. Teacups are beautiful vessels that were created to help keep us nourished. Both are equally important in their own ways. Both are equally a financial benefit in our lives and depending on the budget, a more expensive version may be acquired. It depends on the individuals wants and needs as to which version they choose, but it does not make either instrument any less valuable because they are not chosen by someone, it just means that instrument has not found its true home yet.

So, as society keeps fighting to be inclusive in every way, ask yourself…. are you equal where you stand currently? If not, why are YOU still standing there instead of finding the place that you belong? Are you a hammer in the China cabinet, or a hammer in the kitchen cupboard? Is it time to reevaluate the place you reside?

Published by kmwilkerson

I am single mother of a 15 year old special needs son. I turned away from the corporate world that was supporting us to be home more with my son and manage my own physical illnesses that crept up on us. Two years ago I decided to take up writing (which was something I loved doing as the younger me) and I just published my first book, with many more in the making. I strive to leave a legacy for my son that could assist in his unknown future once I am gone.

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